Walking the Line: The Blessings of Boundaries
Boundaries are necessary behavioral constructs that allow for healthy relationships with other people, personally and professionally. We need to be aware of where we end and the other person begins. Boundaries serve to protect both persons, honoring and respecting each individual. Some boundaries are defined by legal mandates while others are defined by mutual consent, assumptions, or cultural norms. Organizations and individuals are well served if proactive education is offered to raise the awareness around the need and purpose of boundaries.
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Connection is Required for Effective Communication
Communication—effective communication—is fundamental for personal and professional success throughout life. In order to effectively communicate, we must first know and appreciate our audience—family, friends, colleagues, and clients. Secondly, we need to overcome the limitations of telecommunications while leveraging the opportunities. And finally, when communicating eye to eye, we benefit greatly by the addition of nonverbal messaging. Become a masterful communicator. Take the time to connect!
Got Bounce? Exploring the Process of Resilience
As human beings, we will experience the highs and lows of life. Often, the transitions between the peaks and valleys are difficult. It is during the times that try our souls that we realize the importance of resilience, the ability to “bounce back” from adversity. Resilience is not a trait. Rather, it is a process of adaptation that is rooted in realistic optimism—a perspective of life that allows us to discern hope, possibilities, and opportunities in the aftermath of adversity. Life can be shocking to say the very least! Instead of being shattered by the unexpected and the unwanted, we have the ability to choose a response to life. To meet the most daunting challenges of life, we gotta have bounce!
Bridge Time: Dealing With the Consequences of Change
Most of us are not fond of change, invited or not. Change disrupts our daily routines, life expectations, and our sense of certainty. Change reminds us that we are not in control! But change is a given in life: the seasons change, society changes, financial markets change, relationships change, and we change. So instead of resisting change, how can we engage it? Although we cannot control everything that happens in our lives, we always retain the freedom to choose an attitude in response to change. Our choice directly impacts our lived experience and quality of life.
The Afterglow of Adversity
Take a few moments to reflect on your life. When have you learned the most about yourself and about life? More than likely, it’s the times of trial and tribulation that informed and influenced your journey the most. Viktor Frankl noted that it is under the white heat of suffering that life takes shape. Combining Frankl’s foundational premise with the subsequent research related to resilience and the psychology of post-traumatic growth, we begin to recognize the potential afterglow of adversity. Welcome or not, adversity often serves as a segue to positive transformation.
Life: What’s It All About?
Viktor Frankl, a twentieth-century psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, believed strongly that humanity is driven by the will to meaning. We have a basic need to find and to fulfill our meaning and purpose in life. The itch to understand intensifies as we age. We long to make sense of our experiences, particularly the times of suffering and heartache. However, meaning isn’t something we stumble upon happenstance. Rather, meaning is derived from what we contribute, what we experience, and how we choose to suffer. Discernment of meaning requires commitment, courage, and curiosity. So, roll up your sleeves and get to work! If you are willing to invest your heart and soul in the search for meaning, your life will be enriched beyond measure. Meaning-FULL. Don’t settle for anything less!
Calling All Women: Rise ‘n Shine!
It is time for women to realize that with age comes an incredible opportunity to SHINE! It is more than an opportunity, it is our responsibility. In the first half of life, our focus is often on family and career—giving priority to the needs and desires of others. As our families mature and our careers plateau, questions arise which tickle the imagination and prompt serious reflection. Who am I? What ignites my passion? What do I choose to do with my life? Who do I choose to become? This is the gift of aging—utilizing the wisdom derived from the first half of life to engage and to explore the challenging questions prompted by the significant life changes. Granted, many of the transformations women experience are uninvited and disconcerting. However, with every ending, there is the possibility of a new beginning, a new way of being in the world. If we are to light the way for subsequent generations of women, we must RISE to the occasion.